• Grades 3-5

  • No equipment needed

Development Goal

To learn about one another and improve non-verbal communication

Before You Start

Skills Practiced: Listening and speaking

  • Have the whole group gather in a contained area.
  • Put students into pairs.
  • Demonstrate with volunteer, examples of commonalities that meet the criteria. “I wouldn’t tell my partner that I have brown hair because he/she can see that. I wouldn’t say that I am in elementary school because my partner already knows that. I might say, my favorite food is pizza. What’s yours? Or I might ask, ‘What city were you born in?’

How to Play

  • Each group will have 1-2 minutes to find out how many things they have in common that
    • they didn’t already know and
    • are not visible.
  • When the time is up, have youth get into a circle, standing next to their partner.
  • One-by-one each pair will share one thing they have in common.
  • After sharing their commonality, if others in the group also share that commonality they will put their hands in the air, lunge forward, and yell “SUPERSTAR!”
  • The next pair then shares their commonality and the process continues until all pairs have shared.


  • Have youth switch partners and do a round where they have to find out what they have in common around a specific topic (sports, school and so on).
  • Having youth do a round where they can’t speak and can only charades out ideas is not only fun, but helps them with their non-verbal skills.